Mae West described sex as "emotion in motion." Unpack this idea in a post.So, I think we all know it's very possible to have sex without love. But I still maintain that even if love isn't involved, there's some sort of emotion. Even a biological anthropologist says "there's no such thing as casual sex...unless you're so drunk you don't remember."
Sex triggers the release of dopamine from the brain...which makes people feel like they're falling in love. Even if it's not really love, sex triggers some sort of emotion.
I think what Mae was saying is, whatever the emotion, it'll be reflected in the sex.
Is the room filled with candles and rose petals and soft music? The emotion is probably love...or at least a whole lotta like. Certainly romance; a desire to make the night about more than just sex.
Or did he call you at 11:30, show up at 11:45, and leave by 12:30? Probably a lot of desire...and not much else.
Was there a lot of foreplay leading up? Or did you just jump right in and get things started? One shows a great deal of investment...the other shows a great deal of horny.
Great sex can happen either way. It's pretty likely that in the moments following both, you'll feel connected to the other person - if only temporarily.
But the act itself shows a lot about the emotions involved.
Some of the best sex of my life was actually with someone I hated with a passion. He hated me too, but man we really loved hating each other.
ReplyDeleteHow does that happen? I'm not sure why we hated each other so much, he was a complete prick, but I'm not sure how the hatred evolved. He was a friend of some friends and was often thrown into our mix. One night we got into it verbally at a bar waiting for the bathroom and the next thing I know, he's got me pinned against the wall kissing me. I won't get into what happened next or later that night, but it was good enough to put our hatred aside for a few hours and then again a few more times before graduation.