Today's blogging challenge: The biggest misconception you think people have about single life.
Easy enough - that all single people want to be in a relationship.
When most people learn that someone is single, they immediately assume that she must be looking for a relationship. They often jump right into advice on how to find relationships, and make them last - as if this is obviously the single person's biggest dilemma.
It rarely occurs to anyone that I, as a single person, might be perfectly happy. True, I'm currently a pretty bad example, because I've made no bones about the fact that I'd like to be in a relationship. Still, as much as I want a relationship, I won't settle for one that's just "OK" - and I have spent plenty of my single time not even looking for a relationship.
This is something few seem to understand.
There are plenty of people who choose to live relationship free. Does this mean they don't date? No. Are they celibate? Hardly. Does it mean they are unlovable or afraid of commitment or just generally undatable? Of course not.
It means they are happily single - which is an absolutely amazing way to be.
I am definitely one of those happily single people. I cherish the freedom that I have from being relationship-free at the moment. One of these days I'll get around to looking for something more, but for now, this works well for me!
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, certain members of my family don't understand that... I do get the " so when are you going to find someone" question at family reunions from time to time. (Doesn't help when the rest of the cousins are all paired off!)
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