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"Maybe it's a case of bad timing." 

That's what a friend suggested about this guy I recently met. About a month after we started seeing each other, he suffered a significant personal loss. It would have been a test to any relationship, never mind one that was brand new.

The thing is - I don't believe in bad timing. I believe that when a relationship is meant to happen, there isn't anything that can stand in the way. If we were meant to be together, that situation would have drawn us closer together, not put a wedge in between.

It's the same as "the one who got away" - that's just a myth. If that person was meant to be in your future, he would be. Even if you made a mistake that caused him to "get away" I still believe that just means it wasn't meant to be. If it was - there isn't anything you could have done to chase him away.

So, GGS, if there's no such thing as bad timing or mistakes, why do so many singles meet, fall in love, fail, and then grieve the loss of the relationship?

My answer? Because it's hard to accept that we invested in something that wasn't meant to last

forever. It's difficult to admit we may have misjudged a person or a situation, and believed it was more than it was. It's hard to be wrong.

We'd rather blame it on timing or circumstance or even a huge blunder.

If you trust in God - or cupid, or the universe, or destiny or whoever you like - and the plan for your life, then it follows that when things don't work out, it's not because of a mistake. It's because those things don't fit in your plan.

This small moment of sadness and hurt will pass. Eventually, when the big picture comes together, you'll realize why it wouldn't have been right for you.