I left those online profiles out there, figuring they could do the talking for me for a while. I've met a few guys that, on paper (or monitor), look great. But when I chat in person, it's a whole other story.
I've met two guys who are in similar situations. One already holds a masters degree, but is pursuing a second masters that will certify him to teach. He goes to school full-time and works an overnight stocking job to pay his bills. The other is pursing a masters full time and does not work at all; he lives off student loans.
You would think men who are in school would have something to talk about, right? They're learning everyday! Wrong. A typical conversation (text, phone or IM):
How are you? I'm well! You?
Okay. How was your day? It was good. I did [this, this and this] and now I'm doing [this]. What did you do?
Nothing. Let's talk more about you....
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Men, please listen: Women do not always want to talk about themselves. Yes, we want you to listen when we do want to talk. Sometimes, we want your input; other times, we just want to vent. Yes, we expect you to know the difference.
But that's usually after a relationship has been established. I'm in the middle of trying to get to know these men - and they have nothing to say. One actually said to me, "I wish I had something more to say." Great - so say something - anything!!
I'm not the most exciting person in the world, believe me. I'm a basically normal 30-something; I have a job, hobbies, family and friends. I have a house. I have two cats. I have a car.
I have a life, and that's what I talk about. I expect the same from guys. It doesn't have to be exciting or glamorous. It just has to be real. It should be whoever they are.
That is, after all, what I'm trying to learn about.
I spent a long time being shy and sad and miserable until I learned a key thing about people through observation and a long time as a wallflower. If you want to be liked, you have to be likeable. And once I got that, I began to allow myself to be free, expressive and fun. It sounds like these guys either rest on their bodies or looks as enough. It always amazes me how few people are articulate, intellectual and friendly. Good luck!
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