I had a post all ready to go about this guy and how he's sort of got that "bad boy" thing going, and how attractive that is - even though I know better.
But then something happened....
I messaged him the other night and casually mentioned that he "owe's me a drink." His response?
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Yes, that's right. He just ignored it; no, "Hey I can't talk right now," to indicate he is still interested. Not even, "You know, I was thinking, maybe we shouldn't do that," to let me know he is not. Just - silence.
I truly do get not being interested; I do. I also know it's a tough conversation - one I've certainly never gone out of my way to have. If I'm not interested in someone, I'm always more than happy to just let them fade away.
I guess the difference is that I'd never just ignore someone - if they reach out to me, I'm going to respond. Even if it means I have to be uncomfortable. I would also never say to someone that I thought we should get together, only to shut them down. If you don't really want to get together with someone, or be friends, or date, or whatever - why ask?
That's the part I just don't understand.
As someone who will come back to my comp with messages from people because I forgot to shut down I like to give them the benefit of the doubt once. Maybe they got distracted like I do...but I don't ask them again, let him come to you. If the alternate is true and he's just being a douchecanoe, well it sucks but sometimes people don't have balls. HUGS.
ReplyDeleteI thought of that. He was online briefly yesterday and said nothing to me, so I'm going with the latter.
ReplyDeleteI get not having the balls. If he was just being friendly, and I took it another step and asked him out, I can actually understand just avoiding the conversation.
But he was the one who said it...why create an uncomfortable situation for yourself, and then wonder how it got that way? I just don't get that. At all.
It's gotta be me.