Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Extra weight

I came across this article today while I was supposed to be working. I'm having a weird couple of weeks - at work and at home - so I spend a lot of time trying to distract myself and deflect an anxiety attack.

I know a lot of people who, post-divorce- said they'd never remarry. Whether it was the overwhelming commitment or the fear of losing another person or even just the cost or hassle, they felt they were done. Relationships are fine, but when it came to marriage they'd "been there and done that."

Most of those friends are now remarried. Not only that, but they gor remarried pretty quickly after meeting their now-spouse. When asked what changed, they said they finally met the right person.

So, I'm wondering... if someone doesn't want to marry again, does that mean that she has just learned better about herself? Or does it mean that she just hasn't met the right person? Could a he or she warm up to the idea of marriage over time? Or does it mean she never will, if she doesn't want it right away?

I suspect the answers to these questions will not make my week any less weird, so I'm just going to return to Pinning makeup ideas.


  1. I wasn't totally sold on the idea of marriage to begin with and I'm still not. I think if I found I was with the "right" person, it would depend on why they wanted to get married and how important it was to them that we did.

  2. I wasn't prepared from marriage AND married someone I shouldn't have. Because I'm a totally different person now and have had LTR experience (didn't prior to marriage) my chances of success are better in a second LTR but after 10 years of mostly online dating I think the chances of a LTR are slim to none. I must admit, my divorce was horrible, worse than the marriage by far and I have no desire for a traditional, legal LTR. I see it as little counterproductive in fact.

  3. depends which day i ask myself that question - the lack of companionship downright sucks but i am so scared of failing again that I don't know if i could risk it