Everyone has a list of what they want, both from their relationship and in the person they choose. Some people are specific (he needs to be tall, she needs to like video games, we need to travel, etc.), while others are more general.
Every list is personal and unique. What works for one person will not necessarily work for another.
But I do think every list should start out with one primary requirement: I should be happy.
That may mean that you find someone who wants to spend a lot of time together. It may mean you finally find a guy who is taller than you. It may mean you find a guy who doesn't mind that you don't cook, or a woman who doesn't want kids, or a man who wants to help you train for your next marathon.
A friend recently pointed out to me that we all have something we want from our relationships. One of the greatest things we can learn about ourselves is what that something is. Once we know, we are in a much better position to choose the relationship that's best for us - whether or not it makes sense to anyone else.
I'm not in the best position to offer advice right now, but I hope you'll take some great advice from one of my dearest friends:
Top your list with happy - and the rest will fall into place.