I wanted it so much - I married it.
I was lucky; though things ultimately didn't work out as planned, my bad boy never treated me badly. But isn't it funny how so many
women girls, who don't know better, want the boy who's bad to treat them well?
Most aren't as lucky as me. Those guys who can't be tamed, who don't know how to behave, or treat others don't usually make good sons, or employees or students. Most also don't make very good partners. But the idea is just s'darn romantic. How does a girl get over that?
The idea that you can change a person, that love can conquer all (including personality flaws) is a fairy tale. So the way you get over that?
Realize that you should stop looking for the guy you think you want, and then hoping he'll learn how to behave, or treat you. Figure out how you want to be treated; figure out what you need, and what you want - and what you can't put up with.
Then go find a guy who already knows how.