So, I haven't been meeting anyone. I'm super-busy with other stuff in my life, and dating has taken a back, back burner.
But there's one guy who has always kept coming back. At first it was annoying...then it became amusing.
The thing is, the last few months....I also keep going back. I have reached out to him more than once to reconnect, even if it's just to say hi and check in. We haven't seen each other since January-ish.
I have no illusions about who he is or what he wants. He can be a difficult guy, and he has not seemed open to the idea of any sort of committed, long-term relationship.
But no matter who else I meet, or how good (or bad) dating seems to be going - he's always on my mind. It's like all roads lead to this guy, and no matter how hard I try to get away, I end up right back where I started.
I like the idea that people can be meant for each other. I do believe everyone we meet serves a purpose in our life. But I don't believe a strong attraction or even a real connection is enough to sustain a lasting relationship.
Eventually, you have to work out the logistics. We don't like to talk about it, because it's not all romantic and draped in fantasy, but things like personality differences, religion, politics, geography can all impact relationships in a big way.
I've always figured me and this guy had great attraction and a great connection, but logistics would prevent us from having a successful relationship. Yet I can't get this person out of my brain.
Which is a logistic pretty tough to ignore.