Friday, February 10, 2012

Single on Valentine's Day

Unless things go horribly wrong in the next five days, I don't plan on being single without an SO this Valentine's Day.

However - it's the first V-Day in a while when I will be in a relationship. I'm all too familiar with flying solo on a day serving as a constant reminder of all the things your love life isn't. So, for those looking to "survive" the day without a romantic partner - take heart. It's easier than you think.

Don't make it a big deal. It's one day. Most of your friends will make such a big deal out of this one day - they'll set all sorts of expectations that won't be met. Look at it this way - on February 15, they'll be lamenting the date that wasn't all it was supposed to be - and you will have completely moved on.

If having plans is that important - make some. Last year, I went to dinner (complete with a shared dessert) and shoe shopping with a great friend. Shoes, food and friends? Easily the best V-Day I've ever had. No single friends, or schedules don't work out? No problem. Treat yourself to a movie you really want to see, or a restaurant you've been wanting to try. Don't want to venture out solo on that day? Understandable. Try some takeout from that Mexican or Italian place that you love, and put a chick flick in the DVD player.

Make it special. Maybe there's a pair of shoes you've been eyeing, or a new piece of jewelry you really want? What about a splurge on an expensive purse? Go for it! You're single and fabulous - and you deserve something fun just as much as your non-available friends. No time like the present. Bonus - the girls with the dates will all be stuck at dinner with boys - you'll have the dressing rooms all to yourself!

Send cards to those you love. You don't have to be in a relationship to have love in your life. There are all kinds of love besides romantic - and they all deserve to be celebrated. I have cards for friends, kids, family - even kitties. Why not? It's all love - and I'm lucky to have it in my life.


  1. while you are enjoying yourself, think of the young Muslim couples in Malaysia. The Malaysia police conducted a raid to catch all those couples. The reason is that Muslims cannot celebrate Valentine's Day. The authority claims it is a pagan celebration, not for Muslim.

  2. I have two dates! My stepsister and a good friend, and I am very much looking forward to it :)

  3. well said ! and i just L.O.V.E the badge :D