Friday, February 10, 2012

Single on Valentine's Day

Unless things go horribly wrong in the next five days, I don't plan on being single without an SO this Valentine's Day.

However - it's the first V-Day in a while when I will be in a relationship. I'm all too familiar with flying solo on a day serving as a constant reminder of all the things your love life isn't. So, for those looking to "survive" the day without a romantic partner - take heart. It's easier than you think.

Don't make it a big deal. It's one day. Most of your friends will make such a big deal out of this one day - they'll set all sorts of expectations that won't be met. Look at it this way - on February 15, they'll be lamenting the date that wasn't all it was supposed to be - and you will have completely moved on.

If having plans is that important - make some. Last year, I went to dinner (complete with a shared dessert) and shoe shopping with a great friend. Shoes, food and friends? Easily the best V-Day I've ever had. No single friends, or schedules don't work out? No problem. Treat yourself to a movie you really want to see, or a restaurant you've been wanting to try. Don't want to venture out solo on that day? Understandable. Try some takeout from that Mexican or Italian place that you love, and put a chick flick in the DVD player.

Make it special. Maybe there's a pair of shoes you've been eyeing, or a new piece of jewelry you really want? What about a splurge on an expensive purse? Go for it! You're single and fabulous - and you deserve something fun just as much as your non-available friends. No time like the present. Bonus - the girls with the dates will all be stuck at dinner with boys - you'll have the dressing rooms all to yourself!

Send cards to those you love. You don't have to be in a relationship to have love in your life. There are all kinds of love besides romantic - and they all deserve to be celebrated. I have cards for friends, kids, family - even kitties. Why not? It's all love - and I'm lucky to have it in my life.


  1. Last year was fun!

  2. while you are enjoying yourself, think of the young Muslim couples in Malaysia. The Malaysia police conducted a raid to catch all those couples. The reason is that Muslims cannot celebrate Valentine's Day. The authority claims it is a pagan celebration, not for Muslim.

  3. I have two dates! My stepsister and a good friend, and I am very much looking forward to it :)

  4. well said ! and i just L.O.V.E the badge :D