Tuesday, December 21, 2010

And Then...

[The best scene from an awesome movie.] 

You laughed, didn't you? You're welcome.

So, now that Big knows, I've been asked if I will keep writing this blog. At first, I thought - no way. It would be mean, and a little unfair. Then I thought - wait. Big knows about the blog, and he knows he's Big - but (most of) you don't know who he is. You're here to read about me and my perspective; hopefully you laugh a little (or a lot) and maybe you even learn something.

I started this blog to learn about myself. I truly believe that it takes two to make any relationship - and two to break it. If things didn't work, there have to be some things about myself that I need to improve. I also wanted to mend my broken heart by focusing on what I gained from my relationship with Big, instead of dwelling on what I had lost.

The whole "If I'd done this, would he have stayed?" or "If I'd been prettier/thinner/taller/smarter/dumber he'd still be here," is a trap. That's never true; you can't control how someone else feels. You can control how you react; you can improve your perspective; you can learn to see the good in your life.

That's an excellent message. It's something we all have to learn (usually the hard way) and that we all need a reminder of every now and then.

So I will keep writing the blog. It doesn't matter who I am (or who Big is). At the end of the day, we're just a guy and a girl who fell in love liked each other who loved and lost. It's something everyone everyone's been through.

It's definitely worth sharing.


  1. whew!! so relieved! i think your posts bring a lot of insight into something every woman has experienced. keep writing for you! :)

  2. Thank you so much! I really enjoy writing this blog, so I am going to keep it going. It means a lot that so many people are reading, and liking, what I have to say.

  3. I'm glad you're going to keep writing...I think we're all learning a little about ourselves as we join you on your journey.

  4. Thank you! I hope so. I really believe that tough things are made easier if they help you and/or someone else. Sometimes, you just have to look really hard for the good.