In my online dating profiles, I disclose upfront that I am a blogger. I tell people about my personal blog, and about the blogs to which I contribute for news organizations. I do this because once someone has my full name, links to those blogs are only a quick google search away. Also - I'm proud of what I do, and don't wish to hide.
I don't tell people about this blog. In fact, the only guy I've ever told about this blog was Trooper - and that was only after we'd been together for a while, and I knew I needed to come clean before things got any more serious. I feel like there's a fine line between "I haven't said anything yet because it didn't matter" and "I'm flat-out keeping secrets."
I went on a first date with a guy not too long ago who knew I blogged, because he read it in my match.com profile. He asked what I blogged about - and I gave him my standard answer.
He thought for a beat, looked at me and asked, "I'm not going to end up in a blog, am I?"
I looked right at him and with as much enthusiasm as I could muster, replied, "In my personal blog?! Of course not. I'd never do that."
That's not a lie. I would never blog about him - on those blogs.
I'm going straight to hell, aren't I?