Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Give online dating a bad name

Another item in the growing list of trends I see on dating sites, is the guy who changes his profile name (and sometimes main picture) on a regular basis.

I had one guy approach me under one name. We chatted. I told him I wasn't interested. He approached me again a few weeks later. I tried to respond with a thank you, and found he had blocked me, so I couldn't send him a message. Then he emailed me under a new user name - but was using the same pictures. I asked him about it and he told me he'd had trouble with that account, and had to close it and open a new one.

Last week, he popped up in my search results under another new name. We're not talking, and I want to keep it that way, so I can't ask, but...what the heck?!

Another guy who approached me during Lent has previously changed his age, and his ethnicity. I noticed that because sometimes he'd show up in my search results, and other times he wouldn't (it was the age). The other day, he popped up as a new match. It was a new name, but I recognized the photo. I also noted that in his latest profile, he says he has a Masters degree; previously, he had an Associates.

He was a bit of a jerk - so I'm also not going to ask him what's up.

I can tell you that I have been a member of Plenty of Fish for four years - and have never had to change my profile name.

So either these guys are up to no good, or they have the worst luck when it comes to internet safety. Both of them were overbearing and a little mean. The one guy was only interested in talking about sex.

My guess is, they are being reported as violating the site's terms of use, and their accounts are being closed by Plenty of Fish. So they're opening a new account, and probably going to just repeat the same behavior, until they get reported again.

It's guys like this who give online dating a bad name.

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