No sound is louder than the silent sound of rejection.
Unfortunately, it's just something you have to get used to when you're doing the online-dating thing. You scour profiles, find the perfect person and it seems like you're their perfect person. You spend hours crafting the perfect email - the right balance of smart, witty and fun, only to be met with....
*crickets*
It happens; it's all a part of the game.
Read about it over at Singles Warehouse.
I did the online dating thing... As far as his profile it could be the age range (in women) he is looking for.. If he is a young Dad, I would guess he wants someone within his age range.. What I have learned young women usually look for older guys- hint * sugar daddy. Or they are looking for a guy who does over the top exciting things... daring things... Let's face it guys /gals lie on their profiles... Its pretty easy to spot... Maybe he is telling too much of the truth and not saying he is boring but it goes back to what I previously said about having that over-the-top profile that's an eye catcher...
ReplyDeleteWhat I learned from online dating is that there are far and few genuine people who are truthful and sincere and are what they say on their profile.. Most will say 99% positive stuff which just is too unreal... Your friend's friend needs to have sincere friends who know him and can set him up w/someone... It will happen when he is least expecting it... believe me.
My mom used to online date and she never had any luck I think its better to just meet people in your life and let faith take it course.
ReplyDeleteI hope I never have to do the whole online dating thing...one of the bonuses of being married!
ReplyDeletei love it when someone is all gaga over a person they met online...then they call you a few days later saying they met and they are nothing like they said they were!!!! haha! duh! its the internet sweety! they can be whoever they want to be!!!
ReplyDeleteI personally would never do the online dating thing because the person almost never turns out the way you hoped. Most people are completely different in person, rather than behind a computer screen
ReplyDeleteSo true I hate online dating
ReplyDeleteVery true, the sound of rejection can be quite overwhelming. You just have to keep your confidence high (somehow), and keep going at it.
ReplyDeleteOoof what a pain. But when I was online dating, I'd rather get no response at all than some guy leading me on when he's not interested. Also why I didn't respond to guys when I wasn't interested, even if their messages were nice.
ReplyDeleteYou know, I was actually pretty successful at online dating. I really think that it depends on what site you use. I used plentyoffish.com, totally free (well it was in 2009). The guy who founded it used some mathematic algorithymerrr somethingmagig. The only reason I'm not with they guy now is we were both about to move to different cities and were just looking to meet a few new faces.
ReplyDeleteBut that's not to say it was fool proof, because people do lie. There are some creepers out there that stalk the sites looking for a quick fix for the night. You can spot them a mile away. Then there are the flukes where on paper this person is awesome, he writes great email, but when you actually talk to that person on the phone he's sounds like a crazed maniac, or worse he has an ugly voice.
I'd say to have the right approach, if you're looking for THE ONE, you might be disappointed. If you're just looking, you might meet someone who isn't the one but just as perfect in his or her own way.
I met my wife on myspace and after we exchanged emails she had gone away for the weekend and i nearly freaked out when i did not receive a reply to my last email then at the end of the weekend she replied.
ReplyDeletebut rejection is rejection and you are going to have to deal with it no matter if you are trying to meet someone online or in the real world.
keep trying and eventually you will find the right person.
I've been thinking about re-joining Match, but part of me is afraid to. I totally know what you mean about the cricket thing, though!
ReplyDeleteThe thing that I have discovered is that we seem to be looking for that special person we visualize in our ‘head’; yet, fail to realize that is the only place that perfect person ‘resides’.
ReplyDeleteAgree! //
ReplyDeleteThe fear of rejection really is the one thing that holds us back in life. If only we didn't care what people thought of us, then life would be so much simpler!