Wednesday, December 14, 2011

White lies

The Free Dictionary defines a white lie as, "An often trivial, diplomatic, or well-intentioned untruth."

You know, like telling someone that you like an outfit (when you really don't) to boost her confidence, or telling a date you had a good time (when you really didn't) to spare his feelings. Or:
  • I know I sent that email...
  • I'll be ready in five minutes...
  • Oh, your baby is adorable!
You get the idea. 

For the most part, I try to avoid white lies, especially when dating. To me, a white lie is something best told to someone you won't see again. If the relationship continues, you may eventually have to fess up (depending on the lie). But still, they come in handy now and then, especially when I'm first getting to know someone. 

For example: 

"I blog sometimes..." Translated: I'm always writing something, and you'll find me everywhere if you google my real name. And then there's this other blog....

"Sure, I'm friendly with my ex..." Translated: He's one of my best friends, we're on each other's facebook, we still exchange Christmas gifts, and if this continues, you may eventually meet him. In fact, I'll be texting him after we say goodbye. 

"I like my job...." Translated: No, I really don't, but I want to make a positive first impression. You'll find out soon enough. 

"Of course I saw that movie..." Translated: I don't remember - but it's entirely possible that I did.

To read some other white lies daters typically tell, click here


  1. I like how you translated "friendly with ex." Funny stuff!

  2. it always sucks when you get caught in a little white lie!! all you were trying to do was spare the heartbreak and instead you end up pissing them off!

  3. My favorite is: It was a pleasure to meet you... translated, If I see you again I'll cross the street.

  4. I see white lies as sparing someone's feelings. When you tell big lies, forget them and then get caught up in them is when the real trouble starts!

  5. Atiya - if I could "like" that comment, I would.

    Workingdan - I didn't think about "friendly" when I used it, and how others are "friendly" with their exes. We actually just friends, though. :)