Mae West described sex as "emotion in motion." Unpack this idea in a post.So, I think we all know it's very possible to have sex without love. But I still maintain that even if love isn't involved, there's some sort of emotion. Even a biological anthropologist says "there's no such thing as casual sex...unless you're so drunk you don't remember."
Sex triggers the release of dopamine from the brain...which makes people feel like they're falling in love. Even if it's not really love, sex triggers some sort of emotion.
I think what Mae was saying is, whatever the emotion, it'll be reflected in the sex.
Is the room filled with candles and rose petals and soft music? The emotion is probably love...or at least a whole lotta like. Certainly romance; a desire to make the night about more than just sex.
Or did he call you at 11:30, show up at 11:45, and leave by 12:30? Probably a lot of desire...and not much else.
Was there a lot of foreplay leading up? Or did you just jump right in and get things started? One shows a great deal of investment...the other shows a great deal of horny.
Great sex can happen either way. It's pretty likely that in the moments following both, you'll feel connected to the other person - if only temporarily.
But the act itself shows a lot about the emotions involved.