Erich Fromm said, "Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you'." How do you define mature love?This would be a lot easier if I could find mature love. I'll give it a shot..
When we're young, love truly is about finding who you need. Someone to help you check things off your list. Someone who can help you carve out the life you think you want.
When you're older, you finally figure out that life wasn't really the life you wanted, but the the one you thought you were supposed to have. So, you spend some time healing from the loss of the love that didn't work, building the life you actually want, then looking for a love to complement the happiness you've found.
That is mature love.
It should be with someone who wants the same things; someone who has similar goals and values. Who laughs at some of the same jokes. Who finds beauty and humor and excitement in some of the same places. Who is willing to share his life with you, as well as share in your life.
Mature love is with someone who is not afraid to open his heart and his mind. Someone who is honest and upfront and happy to let someone in.
Now if only that person existed.