When was the last time you said, "I love you."Love is a big deal in relationships. If you tell someone too soon, it might scare him away. If you don't say it soon enough, it might turn her off. If one person says it and the other doesn't respond, that's often game-over.
X and I said "I love you" every time we said goodbye, whether one of us was leaving the house, or we were ending a phone conversation, or whatever. Every. Single. Time. I told him once I thought it was important because you never know when you're speaking the last words someone might hear from you. I wanted us to be sure those words were always filled with love, even if we were arguing or unhappy or stressed.
X was the last man to whom I said those words.
But love comes in many, many forms. I tell my closest friends I love them. I say I love you to my best friend's little kids each time I say goodbye. I tell my kitties I love them everyday.
The NaBloPoMo theme for February is Love and Sex - so obviously, they want me talking about that kind of "I love you." But I think talking about the other "I love yous" is as important, if not more.
It's been a while since I felt a romantic "I love you." Sure, I've felt close with men - but no one to whom I said those words. What's important is that love is still in my life - and I know how to feel it and find it.
If I couldn't recognize the love I already have, how would I ever be ready for more to come into my life?