Monday, April 11, 2011

Bad boys make me smile

"If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." ~ Marilyn Monroe

Most woman will tell you - bad boys are sexy. Many will tell you that they dated - or at least crushed on - at least one guy who rocked the bad boy charm.

I'll do you one better - I married one.

'Course I also divorced him - which (I thought) pretty much satisfied my bad boy quota for life. True to form, once separated, I dated several guys who were all the furthest thing possible from a bad boy. 

Turns out - "good guys" have cooties, too.

Enter Crush. If it's a bad boy quality - he's got it. Musician? Check. Partier? Check. Emotional? Check. Tattoos? I'll have to get back to you on that. 

So what is it about that guy that is so attractive? If we talked to a psychologist, I bet there's some co-dependence involved. "Oh, he needs saving - let me save him!" I think that was the appeal when I was younger, but things change as you get older grow. At this point in my life, I'm not interested in saving anyone other than myself. 

So, if it's not that - then what's the attraction? Maybe there's something about a bad boy that just seems more real? Or maybe it's the mystery - the challenge of not knowing what makes him tick? 

Heck - I'm no expert. What I do know is a guy who is creative, expressive, and can carry on a conversation without using the number "1" as a word or talking about hunting or showing me his abs - is incredibly attractive.

He makes me smile. Which is the most attractive thing of all.


  1. Girls like feeling special. If they are with a 'bad boy' and he's a jerk to everybody else but nice to her, she feels like deep down he's a really nice guy but only able to show it to her.

  2. I totally think you're on to something. When I was young(er) and stupid(er) I dated a bad boy who was awful to most people - but he was nice to me. Once he "had" me, he stopped being nice and showed his true colors.

    I still like a bad boy; but I won't put up with a jerk. I guess I like a guy who's grown up enough to be nice and polite to everyone (not just me), but still has some bad boy left over.

  3. Chase is partially right, but I'll take you one bitchy as this sounds, they're also easier to break up with. I won't lie, I dated some guys knowing full well that it wasn't going anywhere, but I wanted some fun for the time being. When we were done, it was easier to walk away knowing he wasn't any good for me.