Thursday, April 28, 2011

My Resume

Inspiration courtesy of this post at Simply Solo....a blog I highly recommend.


To whom it may concern:
I am writing to apply for the job of Z's partner and soul mate. Enclosed you will find my resume, which highlights my most recent and relevant experience.

While it's true that this role is slightly different than what I have done in the past, I believe that my skills will transfer nicely. I think you will find that my research and experience will make me a valuable addition to Z's life.

Please feel free to review my resume, and contact me with any questions. I appreciate your time and attention and look forward to your response.

Girl's Got Shine


Girl's Got Shine


My objective is an opportunity to be Z's partner and soul mate. I am interested in being someone's equal; I am not looking to be taken care of, nor am I looking to be responsible for anyone else. I am an independent, self-sufficient person and am looking for the same. I would bring my own style to this role, and expect the same from Z. There is no reason that either of us should need to change. If  we are truly a good fit, our styles should blend nicely with only minimal effort. 

Experience and Strengths:

October 2010-Present
Single Woman; Dater Extraordinaire; Fighter of Cooties
Following a year-long "relationship," I entered the single world with a new found sense of self. I've dated several men, including a gamer and a much younger guy. I allowed myself to indulge in a bad-boy crush. I also took a brief sabbatical from dating, in order to better understand myself, my past experiences and mistakes, and cultivate lessons from each.

I have also taken the time to develop my own life. I have friends, family, work and hobbies that keep me fulfilled and busy. I am no longer looking for someone to complete my life, as it is already full and happy. Consequently, I am lower maintenance than most; more focused on honesty and less on games, and therefore easier to work with.

October 2009 - October 2010
Later described as "two people just spending time together as friends," this year-long relationship taught me a lot. Most prominantly, that I had a tendency to use relationships as an excuse to avoid making difficult, yet positive and necessary, life changes. Also that I was geared so much towards pleasing others that I would tend to put their feelings, wants and needs first, even at the expense of my own happiness.

I am pleased to say that in the months following this relationship, I was able to look back with a more objective point of view, and learn quite a bit. With the help of some wonderful friends, I have grown and developed my own life and personality in a way that would make me an asset in any new role.

March 2009 - September 2009
Friend with Benefits; Occasional Date; Dating Novice
Following a heart-breaking divorce, I jumped into the dating scene. In hindsight, I may have done so too quickly, but I did take away valuable lessons from the experience. After a discussion in which it was determined he "saw as more as friends," I allowed myself to become a friend with benefits. I later admitted this was more in an effort to keep the relationship going. I prefer to focus on the positives of that experience, and the fact that I learned my limits in terms of relationships.

Forever before that
I was a wife longer than I've been single. I married young, but was completely in love and knew exactly what I was doing. I do not view my marriage as a mistake, but rather something that lived its life, and ended. We grew apart as a couple, but not as friends. To this day, he is one of my best friends and someone who I trust more than most.

I learned a lot from the marriage that will help me in future roles. I know the importance of a man-cave; I respect the fact that people need their own space and time alone; I do not ever tell anyone what to do or where to be - and will do plenty on my own; I learned, and can discuss, baseball and know enough about football to pass for conversation.

Weaknesses (or strengths, depending on perspective):
I can be too independent at times
I am very busy
I am reluctant to make room in my life for just anyone
I expect to be treated as well as I treat others
I am looking for someone who wants to be with me, and is not doing so out of obligation or to pass the time
I will not settle

Mr. 28-Year-Old


  1. Love this! Thanks for writing it. It's so good to see this, because it's a good recap for new readers on how you got where you are. It's hard not to look at our "dating resumes" with a little regret here and there, but mostly, it gave me a feeling of pride of all I've been through and all I've survived. Great post!

  2. Simply Solo - Thank you! I felt exactly the same way. While I was writing it, I was thinking, "Oh, did I do THAT?!"

    But when I was done, I thought - hey, I'd really like to send this to potential dates! I'm pretty cool! :)

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