Wednesday, August 28, 2013

An update

The guy who blew me off over the weekend...

I wanted to say something, but knew contacting him was useless. I managed a couple of days. Then I saw he was online, and couldn't take it anymore.

I sent a very polite text, saying since I never heard from him, seems to me he's not interested. Said he could have just been honest, but no hard feelings and I wished him well.

He replied by saying he "just got really busy over the weekend" but thanks and he wished me the same.

Now... There's no point in analyzing. I don't know the guy well enough to even guess if he's lying, let alone know for sure. In fact, he probably deserves the benefit of the doubt.

I'm sure he did get busy Saturday night. He was probably busy Sunday, too. But he had time to jump on a dating site Monday would it have killed him to take a minute and text to tell me what happened?

I realize we only just met, and not every relationship starts off on the fast track. I'm perfectly happy if we can only see each other here and there, at least to start off. Hey, it's gotta start somewhere, right?

What I can't seem to grasp, or handle, is the thing where a guy says he'll text - and then just doesn't. If I tell you I'm going to be in touch, I will be in touch, even if it's just to say I can't get together.

[Side note: If I say I might get in touch, and then I don't, it's a sign I'm not interested. Which is what I figure when others do the same to me.]

At first, I felt like I wanted to kick myself. Like I had overstepped and drew an unfair conclusion. Perhaps I did...but the more I think about it, the less I think it matters.

All of our interactions were at my initiation. He did text, and he did say he wanted to get to know me, and see me again - but always after I contacted him. I don't want to feel as though I'm chasing him for communication - nor do I want to make anyone feel as though he's being chased.

The reality is, I prefer to date someone who is willing to place a little more priority on getting to know me.

If that's asking too much, I would at least like to find someone who has some manners, and calls when he says he'll call.


  1. :) It comes down to MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS... Sorry, I had to. *giggles*

    A lot of what you write, I agree with, but when you expect a man, to think and act the same way (which is respectful and completely honest) you do. It makes me laugh. Men are just hardwired different. And, some may be exceptions, but as a whole, most don't think the way we do.

    You know my opinion, if a man WANTS to be with you. WANTS to date you, he'll come for you. He will seek you out.
    As well he should.

    But, if you find one that doesn't... and you feel that you will HAVE to keep seeking him out. Why even give him your energy, even to send a "wish you well" message? Why give him any more of you then necessary?

    1. I know, I know. My problem is, I personally know men can be nicer, and I'm looking for a guy who behaves that way. I know it's a lofty goal, but I'm aiming high. ;)

      As far as giving them all my energy - I've reached the end of that rope.