Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Don't get discouraged

I'm sitting at home, minding my business, watching "Friends" reruns on DVD. My phone buzzes with a text from my friend, who has just re-entered the dating scene, via online dating:

So it would be really stupid to meet this guy for the first time, alone, at his house, right?

I wasn't sure how to respond. "Boys have cooties," didn't seem right (though it is very appropriate for this situation). I settled on:

Yes, that would be stupid. {Hey, it was honest.}

A couple of exchanges and this is what she tells me:

He can't meet me tonight. He can't drive this late; he has a restricted license due to a DWI earlier this year.

To which I replied:

It takes all kinds. Don't let it discourage you.

Why that response? Because I assumed we were done with this conversation. Was I right? Of course not:

(Another Friend) thinks I should give him a chance. He gets his regular license back this week.

Now, let me be clear; I realize life is hard, and no one is perfect. I'm all for giving people a second chance. If I were in love with someone who had a problem, I would probably forgive him, and I would be there to help him through his issues. However - that's someone with whom I'm already in love. I'm not one to sign up for that kind of drama.

Plus - DWI is a sorta-big deal. Knowing my friend has a thing for bad-boys, but also knowing she is trying to change things in her life, this was my response:

He got behind the wheel of a car with no regard for his own personal safety - or the safety of others. That's not a quality person. You're better than that. You don't need the drama.

What do you think? Was I right?


  1. you were absolutely right. nevermind the fact that to me, 'i get my license back later this week' sounds like a bad lie from the guy. if that's the case, why can't he just wait to meet her until the end of the week? everything about this conversation should have told your friend to run, run, run! how many red flags does she want?

  2. Apparently, she wanted at least one more, because she went out with him the next night. Then decided he wasn't worth the effort - and he got all pissed off when she told him she didn't think it was going to work out. Which just proved my point. Maybe she'll listen to me next time and save herself the hassle. ;)