I've been seeing two guys. Let me be clear - it's casual with both, no one has asked for exclusivity and no one has promised it either. But I assume it's heading in the general direction of that conversation, so I need to figure something out. Like, now.
I have a nice time with both. I have enough in common with both that the conversation is good and silence (when we have it) is not uncomfortable.
I find Bachelor #1 to be very sexy and good looking. I also like that when we don't agree on something down to the letter, he's not afraid to share his opinion, but he'll also listen to mine. He challenges me which is cool. We laugh a lot. But he and I don't agree on some fundamentals - like living arrangments, whether it's OK to have a corporate job, responsibility, and some morality.
On the other hand, Bachelor #2 and I see eye-to-eye on those issues. He's established, responsible, thoughtful, respectful. He's attentive, kind, funny. He's all the things you want a guy to be (or at least, I want a guy to be). But there's no challenge - he agrees with just about everything I say. I'm not even sure if he actually agrees with me, or he's just saying it because he doesn't want to disagree. Though he's handsome, there's no real "wow" factor.
So now what do I do?
On the one hand, #1 has been taking his time - but maybe that's a good thing. I tend to rush into things (or out of them). Maybe what this needs is a chance to grow.
But #2 seems like he'd rush into a relationship right now. Which makes me wonder if he's just checking off a list of criteria, and since I meet the minimum requirements, he's going to settle before he really knows me.
It has occurred to me that maybe I just need to stop seeing both of them. That if the choice is difficult, maybe it's because I'm just trying to figure out where to settle.
I haven't felt that moment where I just know with either guy. So maybe it's time to move along and keep looking?
Thoughts, suggestions, comments all welcome. Please!